Sexiled

A recent dilemma in my life has had to do with my roommate, who I like a lot, and her boyfriend, who I don't.

In short, I have become a regular victim of sexiling.

Being sexiled means that someone is having sex (or engaging in other intimate activities) in a place that you need to go, leaving you either trapped or locked out of your room.

Also, he likes to sleep over. Or take naps in our room.

I might be more okay with this if I knew him personally, or just thought he was a great guy or something. But unfortunately that is not that case. And I really like/need my personal space.

So tonight, I'm left with the realization that I am bad at communicating or standing up for myself, since I've not made it clear to her how uncomfortable I am with this situation.

So that's that.

And since we're on the topic, I will just say something else that has been kind of upsetting me lately. I work with this man who, recently, has been very demeaning about my choice to remain celibate until marriage. I get that it seems very silly to people, but I don't think anyone should be so quick to make fun of people for something like that. He was also being very condescending about my religion, which made me feel worse.

Some people really don't know what it's like to be set apart from others because of their beliefs/upbringing. Some people also don't know what it's like to make decisions that are different than most other people. So I guess some people can be very insensitive and ignorant about these things.

Even though it's been hard for me, personally, to have been raised so differently than other people, I really am glad that I have the perspective that I do.